When I was 11 years old, my mother silently snuck into my bedroom. Under the cover of midnight, she sat cross-legged at the end of my bed and proceeded to give me The Talk, although it was more of a whisper. Instead of focusing on the anatomy of sex — the biological prophecies by which, some say, our bodies were made to meld into one — my mother chose to emphasize pleasure. She spoke about the importance of passion: pursuing it, asking for it and finding it within yourself. Society has a tendency to perpetuate this idea that the older a woman grows, the more she yearns for the beauty of her youth. It was once bewildering to me that my mother could be so candid about sex. But after speaking with Sylvia, Barbara and Michele — all women 70 or older — about their relationships to pleasure, I now realize that some women only grow more comfortable in their sexualities and in their bodies as they age.
Good sex at any age
Do women want steamy sex or just a companionable cuddle? Bettina Arndt reveals what really gets women going. What do most women of a certain age want? Melbourne-based psychiatry professor Lorraine Dennerstein conducted path-breaking research on menopause which found many women reported a drop in libido at this stage of life. But not all women. Those who found themselves with a new man reported their sex drives were flourishing! Of course there are older women who simply never lose their sex drives, or who miraculously regain interest once young sprogs are off their hands. Then there are women who find themselves with partners who lose interest, perhaps due to problems with erections, and suddenly realise they really miss physical intimacy. So some older women are keen for more action, but it is more common for senior females to find they have no spontaneous desire—sex is simply never on their agenda. It includes really specific information such as recommending water-based lubricants rather than glycerine products, showing how to massage the vagina to keep the tissues healthy, warning against fabric softeners when you wash underwear and so on.
Pumping Iron At 80 Years Old
As soon as we were away from the hotel we started kissing, then had sex in the back of her car. Afterwards she told me to go round to her house the next week, when her husband was at work and we would have more time. I knew deep down it was wrong and we stopped a year later, although neither of us wanted to. I eventually met someone else and moved in with her but sex with her was nothing like sex with my aunt. I split up with my girlfriend three months ago and my aunt texted me saying she was always there if I needed someone to talk to. I do have opportunities with attractive women my own age but I seem to have a thing for big-breasted older women. Stop it immediately before someone else guesses the truth and it causes havoc in the family, never mind getting you into trouble with the law. There could be lots of reasons to do with your past and maybe a poor relationship with your mum why curvy older women press your buttons but this double fling is a dead end for you. Having sex with them is keeping you hooked and stopping you from looking around for someone who will be free to be with you and have amazing sex with you.
The need for intimacy is ageless. And studies now confirm that no matter what your gender, you can enjoy sex for as long as you wish. Naturally, sex at 70 or 80 may not be like it is at 20 or 30—but in some ways it can be better. As an older adult, you may feel wiser than you were in your earlier years, and know what works best for you when it comes to your sex life. Older people often have a great deal more self-confidence and self-awareness, and feel released from the unrealistic ideals of youth and prejudices of others. And with children grown and work less demanding, couples are better able to relax and enjoy one another without the old distractions. For a number of reasons, though, many adults worry about sex in their later years, and end up turning away from sexual encounters.